A Message of Gratitude and Appreciation from the Aldermans

June 16, 2016

Dear Family and Friends,

This Father’s Day, Sunday, June 19, would have been Lane’s 62nd birthday. As those of us in the family remember him especially on this day, we would like to use Lane’s blog to send a message of our gratitude and appreciation to all of you who meant so much to Lane and us all during his lengthy battle with cancer. During these past few years when his illness became more severe and his health became more challenging… your care, support, encouragement, and prayers were Godsends to all of us. He felt the love and concern of so many folks that he knew throughout the entire course of his life and was so grateful for each one’s kind words and prayers for his health and well-being.

Lane was blessed to have been the pastor of three wonderful churches during his 35-year ministry: First Presbyterian Church of Perry, FL; First Presbyterian Church of Vicksburg, MS; and lastly, Roswell Presbyterian Church. Words cannot adequately express how much the people in these congregations and in these communities meant to him. He poured his life into the ministry of each of these churches, and he so loved the people in these congregations that he was privileged to serve.

Lane was so very touched before he passed away with the honor of having the Fellowship Hall of Roswell Presbyterian Church renamed Alderman Hall. He was deeply devoted to the work and mission of Roswell Presbyterian Church, and nothing could have been more meaningful to him than to have had this wonderful place of service, learning, fun, and fellowship named for him.

In addition, Lane would have been overwhelmed at your outpouring of love at his memorial service and the lovely reception that followed. On behalf of our family, we want to say “thank you” to everyone who helped make the service, the reception, and the entire day so very meaningful for us. It could not have been more beautiful.

Our family is so very grateful for the heartfelt outpouring of sympathy following Lane’s passing. Your love and prayers have uplifted and strengthened us during this time. We miss Lane so very much, but his legacy of faith and love lives on and keeps our hearts from being quite so heavy with sadness.

With our deepest appreciation,
Ellie, Ashley, Daniel and Desi


In Loving Memory of Dr. Lane Alderman

April 14, 2016

In Loving Memory of
Alderman in robesDr. Lane Alderman
Pastor Emeritus
June 19, 1954 – April 14, 2016

The Rev. Dr. Edward Lane Alderman, Jr., 61, of Roswell, GA passed away on April 14, 2016 after a sixteen year battle with cancer. Born in Monterey, CA on June 19, 1954, he is survived by his wife, Ellie; his daughter Ashley Alderman of Smyrna, GA; his son Daniel Alderman and his wife Desi and their son Paul Edward of Alexandria, VA.; his parents, Edward and Jean Alderman of Brentwood, TN; and his sister Claire Pratt and her husband Roger and their children and grandchildren of Washington, DC.

Ordained as a Minister of Word and Sacrament in the Presbyterian Church (USA), Dr. Alderman served as Pastor of the Roswell Presbyterian Church from 1994 until his retirement in 2015. He earned a B.A. in English from Wake Forest University in 1976 and a Doctor of Ministry from Columbia Theological Seminary in Decatur, GA in 1980. After graduation he served as Pastor of the First Presbyterian Church of Perry, FL until 1985, when he began serving as Pastor of the First Presbyterian Church of Vicksburg, MS. He served in Vicksburg until leaving to come to Roswell in 1994.

In each of his pastorates, Dr. Alderman’s primary focus was on building and developing the local congregation in which he served. At the same time, he was also involved in the local community, serving in recent years as a Board Member of the Child Development Association, North Fulton Community Charities, and North Fulton Hospital. He was also instrumental in helping establish relationships between a local synagogue, a mosque, and the Roswell Presbyterian Church. Under his leadership, Neighborhood Action Ministry, a local outreach development in Roswell, and The Mustard Seed Project, a new church development in Suwanee, GA, were formed. He was an active leader in the Presbytery of Greater Atlanta; a founding member of the Board of Rivers of The World, an international relief agency; and a member of the Board of Trustees of Columbia Theological Seminary in Decatur, GA and Presbyterian College in Clinton, SC.

A service of Witness to the Resurrection will be held in the Sanctuary of the Roswell Presbyterian Church, 755 Mimosa Blvd., Roswell, GA, on Saturday, April 30 at 11:00 a.m. In lieu of flowers, the family requests gifts be made to the building fund of the Roswell Presbyterian Church.

Today’s Reality

March 10, 2016

I’ll start off with the blunt reality… weakness and breathlessness have developed into even more significant issues for me than they have been up until this point. Moving from one room into another is a major accomplishment. In fact some days I am not able to get into my den chair and I spend the entire day in bed.

That’s the tough news. The good news is that when I’m able to get to my den chair (after the ordeal of getting there!) or when I’m lying in bed, I’m in no pain. I am experiencing no headaches or pains of any kind, and for that I am very grateful. I spend my day dozing, watching TV, reading, working on the computer, or watching incredibly cute videos from my new amazing grandchild. Fortunately, we’re able to Face Time on a regular basis with them as well. It’s almost like being there!

I enjoy reading the cards and emails you send. I hope you understand that I’m not able to reply to each one personally. I certainly wish that I could respond so that I could express what a blessing you all have been to me over the years!

Speaking of blessings, I wrote a week or so ago that I had started a list of blessings I have received in my life. I go to bed every night thanking God for those blessings. Do I wish that my life on earth would go on for many more years? Sure I do! But in the midst of it all I give thanks for the relationships I have had in these 61 years and for the blessings I have received through the congregations I have had the privilege of serving.

I’m grateful for amazing medical care I have received, and for the access I have had to that care. I pray for the day when that quality of care will be available to all people.

I’m blessed by an amazing family… and so thankful that we are all so close to each other.

I could go on and on about the blessing Ellie is to me, but this blog would last for too many pages!!! What a special gift she is in my life!

Years ago, I told a story in a sermon about a man who lay dying and his son came to him to ask if he needed him to read the Scriptures to him in his final days. There is nothing wrong with reading the Scriptures…. In fact I do it every day! But I love the response of the old man in the story. “No, my son. I thatched my roof when the sun was shining.”

I find comfort in that story, because that’s the way I have tried to live my life. As my earthly days draw to a close, I don’t feel any need to run around trying to make up for past regrets or trying to mend broken fences. I’d like to think I took care of those things “while the sun was shining.”

The churches I served know how much I love them, and I’m pretty confident my family and friends know how grateful I am for their love. I did my best to not wait until the storms poured in to share that love. My prayer throughout my life has been to thatch my roof while the sun was still shining.

I’m thankful God gave me that opportunity, and, if given the chance, I hope you’ll do that as well!

I’m also thankful that in the midst of all that I’m dealing with… the uncertainty, the unknown, the moments of doubt, the mystery… in the midst of it all, I’m confident God is with each of us every step of the way! It’s in God’s presence that I find my peace!





Thank You, Roswell Presbyterian Church!

February 29, 2016

In the past couple of weeks, the Roswell Presbyterian Church has honored me in two very meaningful ways, and I want you to know how very grateful I am for both.

First, you voted to honor me as Pastor Emeritus, a title which recognized my twenty years of service to the congregation. I’m touched to join my friend and my predecessor, the Rev. Cy Mallard in bearing that title. Cy was a great role model to me of the love and fellowship which stand at the heart of the relationships shared at RPC. I shall always be grateful for his support of my ministry.

Second, you stunned me by renaming the Fellowship Hall as Alderman Hall. What a very meaningful tribute! Thank you so very much. A significant part of my ministry included leading the congregation as we expanded our physical campus, and the Fellowship Hall has proven to play an important role in our congregation’s development.

I remember at the time we were in construction saying that the buildings were going to be a launching pad for the future mission of the congregation. Thanks to your faithfulness and commitment, that has proven to be the case.

Specifically, as I picture the activity in the newly named Alderman Hall, I’m envisioning relationships being built while eating Molly’s incredible meals; I’m listening to classes being taught to enrich the depth of our faith; I’m watching videos of our latest mission endeavor and hearing reports from our outreach into the community; I’m seeing crowds of students gather in the room for a meal in the midst of an exciting eXtreme Retreat; I’m hearing our children and preschoolers sing and present programs…. The list goes on and on…

That room has become a focal point for the life of the church, and I am honored and humbled by your decision to rename the space as Alderman Hall. From the bottom of my heart, thank you!

Things are about the same at the Alderman household these days since last week’s update. Ironically, since I am off of all treatment, I’m actually feeling some better. The most significant part of feeling better is that my appetite has returned! I may have even gained back a few pounds!

To be honest, once we realized that the chemotherapy medicine was no longer effective, there is a real sense of peace at not having to face the side effects that accompanied the treatment. The nurse still comes to do the draining, and Ellie still does the daily irrigating, but both procedures are very manageable, and I’m able to enjoy comfortable and relaxing days.

Thank you for your prayers, your cards and emails, and for the special honors you have bestowed upon me. I’m blessed to have been able to serve with such an exceptional group of people!



A Sunday Update

February 21, 2016

I wanted to take a few minutes to update you on what’s going on at the Alderman household. One of my goals is to keep you in the loop with how things are going.

Basically, we’re settling into a comfortable routine. Ellie still has to irrigate my kidney drains three times each day, but that process only takes about ten minutes with each irrigation. It does mean we stay up late for the night time irrigation, which in turns means we have a fairly slow start to our morning.

Three afternoons each week a hospice nurse comes to drain the fluid from around my lungs, a process we have been dealing with for the past couple of years. That draining basically takes up those afternoons.

Otherwise, I spend my time reading, napping, watching TV, or working on the computer. My primary symptoms are fatigue and shortness of breath, but when I’m sitting in my easy chair neither is particularly an issue. I’m grateful for the fact that I’m not in pain and that my appetite is strong once more.

One other important item occupies my time… spending time on the phone or on Face time with our new grandson. As many of you know, Daniel and Desi had a baby on February 1. They’re all doing well, and thanks to the marvel of technology we are able to share in every aspect of the baby’s day. He’s a bright spot in our lives!

Speaking of bright spots, I need to let you know how much your support and prayers mean to me. Let’s be clear…. There is nothing good about cancer. As I have often said through the years, we live in a broken world, and cancer is one of the thousands of manifestations of that brokenness. We’re struggling with the evil of cancer, but I am keenly aware of millions of people around the world struggling with the world’s brokenness in so many different ways. Many of you are dealing with the world’s hurt in your own particular ways.

God in his wisdom allows us to live in this broken world, but the Good News is that one day God will be victorious over that brokenness once and for all. We are in the season of Lent, and the empty tomb which stands at the end of this season is the assurance we have of the ultimate victory which is yet to come!

It is in the promise and hope of that victory that I live these days. I would be less than honest if I didn’t tell you that there are plenty of tears in our home now, but I also want you to know that there is laughter and joy as well.

I have been blessed with the opportunity to serve in three incredible churches, and most of all I have the blessing of an amazing family who surround me with their love.

To each of you… to each of them… and most of all to the Risen Lord… I give thanks




Settling In

February 11, 2016

Just wanted to keep you up to date on how things are going….

We got home on Saturday, and we have slowly begun to settle in to a new routine at home. I’m currently under home hospice care, which means a team of folks are stepping in to assist Ellie with my care. We’re certainly grateful for their support! Also, my sister has come for a visit this week, and it has been great to have her in town with us.

I’m thankful for the fact that overall I’m feeling good physically, however weakness and shortness of breath continue to be major issues for me. I’m on oxygen around the clock, and that’s a significant help in my comfort.

I wish that I had the energy to visit personally with each one of you, but I know you understand and appreciate the fact that I’m just not up to all the visits. Your prayers, your cards, and your emails are awesome, and I love reading them all. Thank you so very much!

I’m not sure how much personal reflecting I’ll be doing in this blog…. I’m still sorting through all those reflections myself…. But I do want you to know that even in the midst of my illness I consider myself blessed in so many ways.

I started to list off my blessings, and perhaps one day soon I will, but I realized that the list goes on and on and on…. Too long for me to enumerate right now!

I’ll keep you posted on how things are going, but for now I want you to know how much your love and support means to us


A Difficult but Faithful Decision

February 5, 2016


Many of you know that for the past week I have been a patient at Northside Hospital undergoing tests for my cancer.

Yesterday, in consultation with my doctors, we made the difficult but faithful decision to suspend further treatment for my cancer.   Please know that this decision has not come easily or lightly. I have been battling cancer for 16 years, and in recent weeks it became clear that the there is no further treatment effective in dealing with the progression of the disease.

I’m headed home this weekend, and we will be transitioning into home hospice which will provide me comfort and palliative care in the days ahead.

I plan on writing more on my blog in the days to come to update you more on this decision, but I wanted to go ahead now and get the word out to you.

In those upcoming blogs, I’ll have the opportunity to express my thanks to you for your incredible support, your prayers, and your encouragement that have meant so much to me and my family over the years. In the meantime, I continue to solicit those prayers for me and for all my family.

Thanks so much for your care for me and for my family in the midst of these important decisions.

But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end: they are new every morning: Great is your faithfulness.   Lamentations 3:21-23 


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